Nag Nag Nag
Nagging is always an annoyance. Society shuns naggers like it shuns lepers.
It has come to my attention lately however that although most people can identify a nag when they encounter one, most nags are themselves oblivious to their despicable habit. So, for the benefit of the nags out there (you don't know who you are) I want to clarify what it is to nag.
The dictionary defines the nag (noun) as: "someone (especially a woman) who annoys people by constantly finding fault or those who bother persistently with trivial complaints" .
Interesting. Why especially a woman ? Well, according to Dr. Jamie Turndorf (couples therapist), "women take on the lion's share of nagging because many women find it difficult to directly communicate their needs, they fall into the fatal trap of whining and nagging about what they aren't getting rather than directly stating what they want, need, or expect..."
AHA! So it's a failure of communication. Passing the occasional criticism or opinion is not nagging. Worrying about something and being anxious about it is not nagging.
How to avoid becoming a nag? Say what you mean and mean what you say. If something is on your mind, you can say "I can't stop thinking about XYZ because of ABC".
So please stop nagging! Please stop nagging! You nag all the time! You're always nagging! Can't you stop nagging for a minute in your life! Would it kill you to stop nagging?!